Trust and Intimacy in Communication (1)

'...say the right thing at the right time!' Proverbs 15:23 NLT

 

That's a picture of our dog Jimmy. When he jumps up on my lap he always makes me smile, that puts a positive effect in me. People are always trying to find ways to make themselves feel good. Researchers have finally found ground–breaking neurological research, you can ‘train’ yourself to speak and listen in a way that stimulates sympathy and trust in the brain of the person you’re talking to. Wouldn't that be amazing! But as I read this article it occurred to me, God has already taught us how to communicate with trust and intimacy...

 

Here are some proven principles to help you do it:

(1) Before Speaking Think on His Word. When you’re handling a stressful situation, remaining calm is essential. Stress generates uptightness, uptightness leads to anger, and anger shuts down your ability to get your point across. So take a few moments, the bible says, We are ‘wonderfully made’. (Psalm 139:14 KJV) He has everything in His control.

(2) Think Encouraging thoughts. ‘…As he thinks in his heart, so is he…’ (Proverbs 23:7 NKJV) Any negative thought you harbor can interfere with the parts of your brain used in language processing, listening, and speech, which can lead to defensiveness and distrust. Thinking positive God thoughts about the other person, or yourself, or the topic at hand, can help you to achieve success in your personal relationships.

(3) Seal it with a smile. Your face reveals your feelings. ‘…Jacob noticed that Laban’s attitude toward him was not what it had been.’ (Genesis 31:2 NIV) Research shows that pleasing memories and thoughts of people you love create facial expressions that convey kindness, compassion and interest, stimulating trust and openness in others. So walk the path of Trust and intimacy, it will lead you to a path of belonging. You are Loved!